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    May 23

    The Need For Sleep............

     I can't remember the last time I had more than 5 hours sleep in one stretch. Honestly. Our work doesn't adhere to holiday vacations like most other occupations, so needless to say, I worked this Victoria weekend. I feel like I haven't had any time off at all. What time I do have off, which is never more than one day at a time, is spent buring the midnight oil. In the vain attempt, to try and catch up on a thousand things I never seem to have time to do. There's something very wrong, when I'm forced to do laundry at 2 am. VERY wrong.
     
     I'm dog tired, and it's been affecting my health lately. My joints throb constantly, and my hands tremor. My stomach had a serious attack last night after dinner, and my heart sometimes palpitates out of my chest. My doctor called me into his office, for a lecture on my recent physical. He said all my bloodwork levels were way out of wack, and that my kidneys were taking a pounding. "Is there any stress in your life, Dustin?". Um....Does a bear shit in the woods, Doc?
     
     I tell people to leave me alone, and let me relax. But nobody ever listens. It's always about someone else's wants and needs. Never your own. It seems sometimes, even though I'm not at work, I still somehow end up doing other people's bidding.
     
     Often, I just want to curl up in a ball, go to sleep, and not wake up. That's not a suicidal thought. Just aspirations, of a much-overdue vacation.
     
     Gh0sT
     
     
    May 21

    If you can't stand the heat....

     Hello, kids.
     
     The "D1g1TaL Gh0sT", is back on the cyber airwaves.
     
     Pardon my prolonged absence. But as the headline implies, due to the excessive heat in my life as of late, I was forced to beat a hasty retreat of sorts. Or, as I'm so found of saying, "Get the F__K outta Dodge.". So I did just that. A step I felt was almost pre-required, in order to maintain the miniscule degree of sanity, which I was so tenaciously clinging to. I feared I was on the verge of pulling a "Ted Kaczynski". By that I mean, permanently sequestering myself to the hilly countryside. Where I would no longer have to deal with my fellow man, and his subsequent issues. Whether they be social, moral, phychological or otherwise.
     
     The bike project started last year is OFFICIALLY over. The final straw came last week, when the bike (supposedly complete and road worthy), stalled out THREE times in rush hour traffic on the ride home. One time almost resulting in me getting rear ended. Upon being towed back to the shop, it was diagnosed by the head mechanic (A very compitent one. With several magazine project credits under his belt.) after taking the entire engine appart, that is was, essentially, a complete and total lemon. So at that point, it would need a NEW motor on top of everything else I'd already purchased. Which tallied at that point, over $2500. Not including labour. Keep in mind. This was a bike, that was supposed to have cost $1100 MAX. To make matters worse, the mechanic came to me and my boss basically said, even in fixed, he couldn't gaurentee the safety of the bike. Having already been lied to about its true condition, there was no real way to gauge what else may be wrong with it.
     
     At that point, knowing the son of a bitch who sold me that death trap was right downstairs, and to add insult to injury, had been taunting me about the bike for two weeks straight, I turned to my boss and proclaimed, "I can't deal with this. Can I go home? No, wait. Never mind. I'm not asking you. I'm telling you. I'm going home.". And for the first time in 16 years of work, I walked out of my job. Not out of spite. Out of general principle. My way of saying, "What has done to me by a fellow employee in this company, is definitely NOT okay.". Staying, would have subconciously said the opposite.
     
     I spent the few, remaining hours that day reviewing my options. By some act of God, my first bike, the Honda Sabre, actually sold. A model Rick said wasn't popular, and might have trouble selling. So that was $1400 that helped recoupe some of the loss. But I was still looking at spending yet another season without a ride. And while I may have had no say in having my money stolen from me, I would be damned if I was going to let someone steal my season from me as well.
     
     So on that note. "Say hello, to my little friend"............
     
     
     
     
     
     
     
    May 09

    ....

    I have been pushed, far beyond my abilities to cope.
     
    From now on, I'm choosing not to.
    May 08

    Memories of days gone bye...

     Tonight was a night of somber reflection. I spent a great deal of it reminising, about the past glory days of "The Brotherhood". Glories days that are, in retrospect, not as glorious as one may believe. But still, were far more heart-warming and enjoyable, than the harsh and broodish reality of today's modern, urban struggle.

     Under a half moon, the night sky seemed all that more clear. I walked as I walked over a decade ago. The exact, same walk I'd taken hundreds of times over, after a night of rowdy debauchery with "The Brotherhood". Transversing alleyways, sidewalks, and peering into the gaslit gothic mansions of Jarvis Street. Back then, everything seemed so harmonious. I can vividly recall the clicking tempo of my leather Skull boots along the cobblestone. Interrupted by the tapping of my walking stick. Occasionally stopping to sit on a bench, the sound of coy, female laughter was like music to my ears. As I watched couples in love taking a midnight stroll though the park. Sometimes, a person pasing me on the street would look up to see me approaching, and I would smile, as I watched their eyes grow wide with disbelief. Because surely...This must be some kind of ghostly apparition approaching them. As no modern gentleman dresses like 18th century Victorian aristocracy. Complete with ruffled shirt, velvet vest, and a brocade froak coat. With skin far, too pale. With lips and eyes too bruised and dark. Surely, this was a rip in the fabric of time they were experiencing.

     With those days long past, I would love nothing more, than to resurrect the spirit of that time. Those were the only days when I felt what it was to be truly alive. Before the realities of urban life had taken hold, and the concepts of possibility and opportunity still had promise. Everything today seems so alien and foreign to me. Or, as previously stated, harsh and broodish. I feel like a good portion of myself died with those times, and I'm just this shell of what I used to be. Drifting throughout the world, my ghost occasionally being spotted at places I used to inhabit. With the life energy having been stripped from me almost entirely, as a result of perpetually slaving to the grind, I have lost all contact with what once brought great joy to my life. Much like a person on a respirator, ths spirit is dead, yet the shell continues to live on.

     So when do we pull the plug?

     Gh0sT

    May 03

    Stereotype much?

     Ask yourself this: Do stereotypes exist for a reason? Personally, I'm starting to believe they very much do. I know that's not the "politically correct" way to think. But dammit. When the hell, have I ever been so? Much like Jesse "The Body" use to say, I have to call them as I see them. And see them I have. Over the last several years.

     Let's be honest. Stereotypes have existed, for God knows how long. They bridge every race, creed, colour, gender, sexual orientation, and subculture known to man. And despite the diversity of such, there is one thing they all share in common. Which simpley put, is this: PEOPLE PERPETUATE THEM. Not only when they use them, but when they purposely live up to the stereotype themselves.

     Case in point.

     On one of my first days at my current job, one of my co-workers, during a lull in the action, inquired about my racial background. When I told him half my family were of Irish decent, the other half Italian, he replied, "Holy s__t. I wouldn't want to be at one of your family dinners during the holidays! Sounds like all the trappings of a drunken brawl!". Now, I could have taken that personally, and refuted such a claim as completely and totally baseless. But in all honesty, I couldn't. Because I am unable to recall, just how many times I have been sujected to one of the many endless stories over family dinner, of my two Irish cousins, Ronnie and Paul, getting absolutely falling down drunk, and proceeding to be the holy Hell out of each other. And again. These aren't two randomly, intoxicated Irishmen meeting up in a bar, taking offence to one another's presence, and commencing to drop the gloves. These two, were FULL BLOOD BROTHERS. Brothers, who took great joy, in sending each other to the hospital. So based on just that one example (Not to mention, the centuries-old religious wars fought in Ireland) is it any wonder why someone might pick up on the time-honoured stereotype, of the "Fighting Irish"?

     Sexual orientation can be wrought with stereotypes as well. Several years ago, I remember reading a column, by a local gay writer/pornographer. He recalled a story involving two of his male, homosexual friends, who were co-habitating in a long term relationship. They had invited a straight married couple to their home for dinner, and were giving them to customary tour of the house. Upon arriving at the bedroom, the straight couple couldn't help but remark, about the sophisicated decour of the room. To which the one owners replied, "Well. If gay man stopped decorating their bedrooms like a 9th grade girls, in pastels and stuffed teddy bears, then maybe the straight world would begin to take us a little more seriously.". Clearly, this was a couple who even understood the dangers of perpetuating a stereotype, in their very own community. And were making a concerted effort to do the exact opposite.

     Subcultures can be a breeding ground for stereotypes, too. On general principle, they can indirectly prevent one member from associating with that of another group. Thus not allowing someone an unrestricted, impartial view of another. To make matters worse, an underlying sense of peer pressure may result in a member feeling the need to perpetuate certain aspects of said group. Even if they feel some of those traits and behaviours are counter productive to the group's image as a whole, or even their own sense of right and wrong. The end result being, of course, what becomes stereotypical behaviour. Because one person never really gets a chance to know another person of a different group, other than on a superficial level. As they are forever on the outside, looking in. All they will percieve, and begin to see as law, is what the group perpetuates. Not the individual. One of the prime reasons you are warned as a child, "You are judged by the company you keep.". A motto we tend to forget as we grow old.

     However they began, or the degree of truth that's involved in each, one thing is for certain: Stereotypes have been around a long time, and will most likely continue to be around for a long time to follow. The only thing one can do to combat such, is for each person so routienely examine themselves, their traits and behaviours, and ask themselves if they are doing anything, directly or indirectly, to perpetuate the stereotypes that may be be associated with who they are, where they're from, or what they are about. Doing so, you just may break one in the process, or stop another one from taking root altogether.

     Just a thought,

     Gh0sT

    May 01

    Observations of social interaction.....

     This weekend, out of sheer boredom, I found myself rifling though some online personals, when I happened across an ad from a woman in her early twenties. In addition to the usual bland personal info, she went on to gripe about the "new breed of man", and how they were too sensitive for her liking.
     
     So here's my take on what's going on.
     
     WOMEN....YOU DON'T KNOW WHAT YOU WANT. AND QUITE FRANKLY, NEVER HAVE.
     
     Think about it, fellas. Think of the countless times have you turned on the "idiot box", and observed some glorified man-bashing...er...I mean "female talk show" in action, with the participants rambling on about how "all men are pigs"...."all men are insensitive"...."men should be MORE like women"....yada, yada, yada. How many books geared towards that same line of thinking have been produced, to try and convert men, into a testicular version of an Oprah Winfrey guest? UBER sensitive, ULTRA passive, COMPLETELY submissive, and devoid of any male characteristics whatsoever? So after a decade or so, of being subjected to this new age psycho-babble, some of it has taken root and sprouted in the male community. But NOW, some woman are pining for the days of old. When MEN were MEN, and with the exception of a few issues here and there, quite frankly, there was nothing embarassing about being masculine.
     
     Well...TOO F__KING BAD FOR YOU. Is all I say.
     
     Because women got this ball rolling. This idea that there was something completely wrong wtih the male species, that only the intervention of a female presence could cure. NOW, that men are demonstrating some of the more female characteristics as a result of said intervention, some women are finding themselves completely put off by it. Which STINKS of hypocrisy. And leads me to ponder the notion, that maybe women are MORE put off by their OWN gender's antics, then they are of men. So that being said...Who's REALLY the problem here?
     
     Just a thought.
     
     Gh0sT xxx